Equinox Vigil surrounds participants with love, hope

The Equinox Union Vigil aims to create a safe space, building a community for those experiencing grief.

“We create a village for tonight, a space to remember the mystery that is life and death,” said Sharon Stevens, organizer of the event.

“It invites us to be open and vulnerable in our community.”

The vigil was held at Union Cemetery on Saturday Sept. 17, with various activity booths for each attendee to experience at their own pace.

Musicians, choirs and artists are invited to play and display their work, creating a calming atmosphere.

“I feel like the people who host this are very compassionate, and I don’t even know who they are,” said Lesley McNamara, a Calgary resident.

“This is actually quite amazing. It feels very safe here.”

McNamara’s daughter died in December, 2015 and she is still coping with the grief of her recent loss.

McNamara said she connected with the outdoor environment because her daughter had always loved the outdoors.

“It is cleansing for me, a place where I’m able to release all of my feelings,” said McNamara. “It allows people to speak about their person.”

McNamara wept while remembering her daughter, saying that she always felt her daughter’s presence when there is a cat in the room, because the two of them both shared a love of felines.

McNamara said that when it comes to the loss of a child the pain cuts deeper.

“It seems like there was so much potential for them that they never fulfilled.

“She didn’t have children, she never got married, and she didn’t do all the things I would have liked for her to do.”

Former city councillor Diane Danielson also lost a daughter several years before, and this was her fourth time attending the Equinox Union Vigil.

“When you’ve lost a daughter, you never forget, and I think that’s why I came the first year,” Danielson said.

“It’s nice to know that everybody around here has lost somebody, and that you’re not alone.”

Paying respects:Residents of Calgary come to the Equinox Union Vigil at Union Cemetery in Calgary on Saturday, Sept. 17, 2016. The Vigil presents various musical and artistic guests as well as a lantern procession to remember those who died this this year. (Photo by Miriam Johnston/The Press)
Paying respects: Residents of Calgary come to the Equinox Union Vigil at Union Cemetery in Calgary on Saturday, Sept. 17, 2016. The Vigil presents various musical and artistic guests as well as a lantern procession to remember those who died this year. (Photo by Miriam Johnston/The Press)

The first time she came, Danielson noticed that many people came alone.

Today more and more people are coming to the vigil with their friends and families.

“I think that it is good to be together,” she said.

One choir that is new to the vigil this year was the Threshold Choir. The choir collectively surrounds two people, wraps them in blankets and sings to them.

“We call what we do audible kindness, and these are little song baths for people,” said Shanon MacKinnon, a member of the choir.

“It really puts people at ease and it touches them in ways that words cannot.”

The vigil also included various activities such as crafts, decorating lanterns, a digital shrine and a lantern procession.

“They can make lanterns if they want, and they can be part of the tea and conversation with people they’ve never met,” explained MacKinnon.

“This allows people to personalize their grief a lot more as well as their healing process.”

The atmosphere was described as gentle by many of the attendees.

“It’s not religious, it’s spiritual,” said McNamara.

Danielson expressed exactly what makes this event so special: “There is hope here, and it makes you feel good.”

Pauline Zirrie:Calgary resident Pauline Zirrie decorates a lantern at Union Cemetery in Calgary on Saturday, Sept. 17, 2016. She is remembering her lizard Chole who died the day before, as well as her grandma. (Photo by Miriam Johnston/The Press)
Pauline Zirrie: Calgary resident Pauline Zirrie decorates a lantern at Union Cemetery in Calgary on Saturday, Sept. 17, 2016. She is remembering her lizard Chloe who died the day before, as well as her grandma. (Photo by Miriam Johnston/The Press)
About Miriam Johnston 4 Articles
As a writing and communications major in the journalism program at SAIT, Miriam Johnston is working as a reporter for The Press during the 2016-17 academic year.

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